Stop losing your sh#t, be the conscious mother you really are and raise happy, healthy children who get along.
Dear tired, stressed out Mother,
I know you’re often exhausted and overwhelmed. The demands of parenting children are a huge and often unrecognised job. It has no knock-off hours, no weekends, no holidays, and no sick days.
It can feel isolating at times, like a long, endless Groundhog Day…
At other times it can feel like an overwhelming river of high-intensity craziness… where you have no idea what you’re doing.
But you are raising the next generation of the planet.
On the one hand, how inspiring is this?!
It reminds you of the sacredness of the job you are doing
…and on the other hand, it can scare you silly, given you feel completely unqualified to do that justice.
Your children are growing every moment, learning in a state of constant change. In fact, though it may not feel like it, they are growing up rapidly. Their childhoods will be over in the blink of an eye. They will take over the running of the planet, and like all mothers I know, you hope they’ll contribute to society in a positive, meaningful way that enriches the world and themselves.
You know you want to give them a nurturing, healthy, positive, and loving environment. You probably have a picture in your head for what that looks like, that dream you’ve made your mission to provide, right?
I also know you love your children - heart and soul. It’s a level of love that most of us never felt until we became mothers.
And
I get that you don’t always feel like you’re conveying that love OR providing that nurturing environment that you want to be….
I get that there are days that you feel like you are totally failing as a mother and screwing your children up in the process.
- You lose your patience, where you yell at the spilled juice or the toys all over the floor that you just tripped on.
- Your boundaries are stretched too thin, and you snap and lash out.
- Your doubt and fear take over, and you mask it with anger, shaming, blaming or nagging that does nothing but create a sense of hurt and distance… But nothing else seems to get through.
- Your frustration bubbles over, and you don’t think you can bear to argue about the TV one more time.
- The day spirals down into endless battles and conflicts with resentment and anger on all sides.
I know there are times when your heart hurts as you hear the words coming out of your mouth.
I get there are days when you long to run away (even if it’s just to the bathroom), to sit in silence with no demands on you, to get away and break down. Not because you don’t love your children, but because you feel past where you can cope and out of ideas.
I also get the fear and shame when you see the way your children lash out. The way they speak to each other, to you.
The days where you feel completely unheard and resort to yelling and punishment in a desperate attempt to restore order.
Or all the times your partner communicates with the children in ways that you feel are harmful, and you step in to protect them, creating more conflict, anger, and resentment on all sides.
But most of all, I get that you just want peace in your home.
You want your experience of motherhood and the way you raise your children to match the picture you have inside.
...and it’s absolutely possible, I promise you.
Before this course I was a Yeller. My yelling has dropped by about 90%. It’s now the exception, instead of the rule.
Before partaking in this course I felt heartbroken, disillusioned and so upset that all the wonderful parenting philosophies I always read seemed so inspiring on paper, but just couldn’t translate into in-the-moment reality when I needed it the most. I was always left parenting through my same old automatic reaction, no matter how hard I tried to do it differently.
Kaya and Lisa guide me to finding my own truth as a parent, which I then implement with such a natural ease, the likes of which I have never experienced when trying on someone else’s parenting theory, no matter how inspiring.I finally feel I have my hands on how to be the mother, partner, woman I truly long to be – for myself and my family.
This work is sumptuous, nurturing, soft, strong and gentle; it will return you to yourself. Dive in and drink for your soul
The problem is the majority of us have never learnt how to positively manage conflict. We didn’t gain that skillset growing up (and neither did our parents or theirs).
In actuality, most mothers would rather avoid it at all costs. When you can’t, you fall back on ways you saw, experienced and learnt around you, in your families, and in the world at large.
Along with those less-than-optimal tools you have, you’re also triggered by your own unhealed stuff in the face of conflict (be that boundary pushing, yelling, or physical violence) and thrown out of your loving, conscious mind and into your own fatigue, pain, fear and resentment.
From this place you have little chance of remembering, let alone enacting, all those strategies you’ve got floating around in your head from all the numerous parenting books you’ve probably already read.
If you can actually try a strategy from a book, you’re frustrated to find they rarely bloody work. They sound like stiff, scripted words that seem to bounce right off your children and feel inauthentic to you too
... yet you repeat them like crazy, hoping they’ll sink in. 'Words, not hands'. 'Does that feel safe to you?' 'Let's stop and take a breath'….
So here’s the deal.
You absolutely can create peace, connection, and cooperation in your home.
- You can feel in a place of authentic and loving leadership in your home without feeling like you need to resort to yelling, nagging, or punishing.
- You can feel calm and in control in the face of conflict. You can approach situations with a toolset that allows you to not only hear and understand everyone without being triggered, but also feel really heard by them!
- Your children can grow to use their words to solve problems, to consider the needs of others in their decision-making, and to apologise authentically and voluntarily when they do hurt someone.
- You can radically change the way communication is happening in your whole family
- You can dramatically increase the connection and quality of ALL your relationships in your home, from your children to your partner.
- You can feel more spacious and create a family life that doesn’t have you feeling overwhelmed and frazzled.
- You can absolutely create that picture of how you want your family life and your experience of motherhood to be… on a daily basis, in reality.
Lisa and I (it's Kaya here) have both been down in the motherhood trenches too.
I can remember many times I've yelled and screamed at my children
(and to be honest, some of the times invoked so much shame and regret that I blurred out the memories.)
I also remember breaking down in despair, deciding it’s all too hard, and wanting to check out from this crazy job I can’t believe I took on.
But if you want real change...
Just learning another theory or memorising another strategy won't cut it (it can actually make you more despondent, as the distance between what you know in theory and what you actually do in the moment moves further apart).
You need to experience those changes in the moment, as you’re living the full and intense life of a mother navigating conflict.
And that is what this course will give you.
It bridges the gap between the learning and the actual doing.
It's a deep dive into the consciousness shifts it takes to create real, sustainable peace and connection in your home.
The tools, theories, and strategies are in there, but not without the guidance to really take them in, embody them, and apply them to naturally and authentically own them within yourself.
This is not about learning a new script, '1-2-3' tool, or hack :) This is rewiring the entire way you and your family handle conflict and being able to act from that new place in the triggering 'everything happening at once' moments of motherhood.
Calm Mama Peaceful Family is a tried and tested journey that will totally rewire the way you approach and handle conflict and communication in your family.
Lisa and Kaya have completely changed the way I think about parenting, about life, about my children and about my partner!
My life is now filled with connection rather than disconnection.
The impact this work has had on my family is huge. I am now more able to pause and choose a response to my children’s behaviour, rather than instantly reacting. I have more patience, I feel more connected and I feel I am parenting with integrity so much more of the time.
Get immediate, lifetime access for $279 USD,
or two monthly payments of $142 USD
The entire course is usually $389 USD
(or two monthly payments of $198 USD).
You are receiving this discount as a thank you for going through our conflict to connection kit :)
One payment of $279 USD
Two payments of $142 USD
How it works...
Calm Mama Peaceful Family is a 12-module, go-at-your-own-pace course. All the videos, audio classes, worksheets, journals, meditations and summary posters can be accessed online or downloaded for offline use.
Core to this whole program is the ability for you to personalise the teaching for you and your unique family situation and to apply the material directly into your family at any given moment in a way that works for you and your values.
This is about you being able to own the learning and embody it so that it works for you and springs from you naturally and authentically in a way that is totally relevant for the situation, you, and your children.
Every two weeks in your email, you are given a new lesson which is broken down into small chunks that you can fit in amongst the busyness of life with children. You have immediate and full access to the course, the emails are just there to prompt you. Everything is in a private membership site that you can easily access on your phone, computer or tablet anywhere and anytime you want.
Core to each lesson is the ability for you to actually personalise and transpose the information into your family with what’s actually going on and practice applying the lesson in an integrated, daily way. We call this The Practice.
Over all our years of teaching and facilitating transformation, we have learnt that this is the easiest and most powerful way to create lasting change, to bridge the gap from knowing to actually doing. To create new default habits and to embody the learning for yourself in your own unique, natural and authentic way.
Throughout each lesson in the program you’ll be guided to create a practice. To live it, to try it on, to share in the comments section, to get feedback from the coaches, to reflect on your experience with it and to integrate the experience and the learning that came with the process, each and every practice.
What you'll receive...
Each workshop includes
- An introductory, short summary video
- A 60-90 minute audio class delivered in 15-20 minute sections. Each section has written descriptions to easily find them again.
- A guided Meditation and journal, connecting you with your Inner Wisdom and healing. Just taking yourself through this series of 12 meditations is completely transformational
- Comprehensive worksheets and journals to get the most out of every interactive exercise in the workshop
- An art poster/s that encapsulates the core teachings and practices from the workshop and reminds of the practices in the moment.
- A private membership area for you to comment, ask questions, share insights, aha’s and celebrations
The 12 workshops are delivered in 4 modules:
Module One-
Coming Home
Workshop 1- Master the foundational building blocks to all conscious parenting
In this workshop you’ll learn and truly integrate the foundational practices you need in place before any communication techniques and conflict resolution skills will ever be effective. Work on self awareness, setting powerful intentions, empathy and presence in moments of conflict AND before you even open your mouth or find yourself in conflict... and all the other work will be 1000 times more effective.
Workshop 2- Come into your embodied feminine power and EVERYTHING becomes easier
In this workshop you’ll discover how to parent from an untapped stream of powerful energy that’s natural to you as a woman and a mother. Once you know how to connect in with this energy, in just minutes each day, you’ll feel so much more vitality and spaciousness, and you’ll have everything you need (on a deep, embodied level) to become the woman and mother you truly are instead of the woman and mother everybody expects you to be.
Workshop 3- Know your own inner truth and always have the ultimate parenting expert within, guiding your way
In this workshop you’ll get super clear on your core values as a mother and deeply connected with your own intuitive voice.
You’ll learn how to follow your own inner compass that will always be guiding you to the words and actions that are for the highest good of you and your children together.
Module Two –
Peace Within
Workshop 4 –Work with Anger & Stressful Thoughts in ways that heal, empower, build bridges and connect
In this workshop you’ll practise whole new ways to navigate triggering thoughts that would have previously set you off into yelling or other unconscious communication habits. You’ll also learn how to constructively work with anger and other strong emotions in times of conflict. This helps you to relate with your children in non-harming and connecting ways while still honouring yourself and your own feelings and needs.
Workshop 5 –Do the deep inner healing and reclaiming work you are ready for – Liberate yourself and your children from destructive patterns once and for all
In this workshop you’ll heal your ‘shadows’ (those parts of you that you make wrong and have avoided working on). When not worked on, your shadows continue to hold power over your reactions especially in conflict. They are what has you stuck in destructive patterns for years, no matter how much you try to change. When you do this work, you become liberated from destructive habits like never before, and you are able to truly, sustainably change the ways you show up as a mother.
Workshop 6 –Learn the art of saying NO and setting effective boundaries without disconnecting from your child or diminishing their spirits in any way
In this workshop you’ll understand why so many gentle, conscious mothers have trouble setting boundaries as our culture usually defines them. You’ll learn a whole new way of knowing, claiming and communicating your boundaries while remaining compassionate, playful and connected with your child. This is such important work because no mother can continue to be calm, gentle and giving if you have no healthy way to know, claim and express your boundaries.
Module Three –
Peace Ripples Out
Workshop 7 –Speak your Truth in ways that will be heard, received and respected
In this workshop you’ll take what you’ve learnt and integrated in the previous workshops and move even more directly into how to effectively communicate.
You’ll learn ways to express yourself so that you can truly be received and heard and bring your needs into the equation without taking away from anyone else. All the communication tools you’ll come to use will enhance connection and create way more effective and creative outcomes in your family.
Workshop 8 –Hold a Safe, Loving Listening Space as a gift of healing and sacred connection with your child
In this workshop you’ll learn and practice the art of holding space as a path to healing, peace and connection.
You’ll experience the incredible power of listening fully and receiving those you love. The transformations that open up for your loved ones (and for you) through your holding space are immense and life-changing yet simple and gentle to apply.
Workshop 9 –Effectively mediate any family conflict, lighting the way back to peace and connection
In this workshop you’ll learn how best to mediate sibling conflict and conflict between your partner and child, helping them work through it consciously and also empowering them to work through it on their own.
Like with all the conscious communication tools in the course, the intention is to work through any relational dynamic consciously and strengthen the connections between you all.
Workshop 10 –Give Effective Feedback that empowers and creates the change you want.
In this workshop you’ll learn how to give feedback to your child or partner in ways that actually empower them, lift them up and create the transformation you were hoping for.
It is ok to want to say things to your loved ones in the hope of changing their behaviour, but the ways people mostly go about doing it are ineffective and disconnecting; this workshop teaches you another way.
Module Four- Sisterhood
Workshop 11 –Move well Beyond Judgment, Fear and Competition with other mothers and create the true spaces of sisterhood you need
This workshop begins the sisterhood module, the final 2 workshops. You may not have ever seen a section on relationships between mothers in a parenting course, but we’ve found it to be a really important and pivotal relationship to work on to create the wholistic change all mothers long for.
In this workshop you’ll learn how judgment and competition between mothers negatively affects your parenting. How you can be a part of creating a new, empowering, supportive paradigm of community (or Sisterhood) where every mother becomes her own expert and takes back her power rather than seeking external validation and perpetuating the culture of judgment and competition.
Workshop 12- Be a part of a New Paradigm of mothers in supportive community, lifting each other and all children up, creating a new world of way more cooperation, peace and connection
In this workshop you learn new and concrete ways to create the community support around you that you need.
You’ll begin to implement support systems that nourish you, your sisters and your families on an emotional, spiritual, psychological and practical level- creating the ‘village’ you need around you in ways that fit in with your lifestyle and help you continue to come back into the mother you most truly are.
Bonuses
As if the course wasn’t enough to get you yelling less, bringing more peace into your home and creating the world-changing, long-lasting connections you long for with your children ...
We’re also gifting you with several powerful bonuses that have been helping mothers transform seemingly stuck conflict (within themselves and in their families) for years. They can also help you go even deeper in the course, should you choose to use them alongside it.
Bonus 1: Use the power of the Single Practice to actually turn what you learn into living action!
A bonus pack of video, journals and guided audios on how to best learn and apply new information so that it has you actually changing habits and family patterns in your everyday life and especially in times of conflict.
This is the key to staying out of information overload and truly creating the change you need and want.
Bonus 2: Worksheet Series to Grow & Heal Family Connection
The reason conscious communication and conflict resolution are so needed and wanted in families is because we need be connected with each other, we want to feel real, genuine, healthy connection with those we love.
These worksheets, journals and interactive posters help you build that connection outside of conflict, before shit is going down, in the everydayness of life.They bring more love, meaningful ritual, intention, play and genuine connection into your days, weeks and years together. They are fun and hugely insightful when you work with them together with your family.
Working on connection is important and fulfilling in and of itself but it is also an important part of conflict resolution and conscious communication because disconnection of some form is often at the core of what’s not working so when you bring in these family activities you will have less conflict and misunderstanding to navigate!
Bonus 3: Another Coach in your Pocket Audio Series- A whole new suite of mini meditations and guided processes that bring you into the optimal headspace to live what you learn daily
(a different set than the one you may have bought alongside the conflict to connection kit).
In the intensity of everyday motherhood, do you ever wish you had someone there to remind of what’s truly important to you?
In this set of MP3 audios we are here to guide you in those small pockets of time. You can put them on your phone (many of our clients do), take a few minutes listening and following along and you’ll come back so much more ready, able and equipped to parent consciously.
Some of the audios, you’ll just want to pull out when you’re facing a specific thing (like calming down when you’re triggered, making a decision, cooling down and finding mental clarity after a conflict) and some are more regular, 'use any time' meditations like our Womb Space meditation and ‘Claiming your daily mothering mojo’.
All of the audios are short and designed to support you as if you had a parenting coach in your pocket for whenever you need it :-)
Bonus 4: The Conscious Mama’s Communication Kit
A complete e-kit to learn and implement conscious communication by taking it back to its essence. No mental anguish over what to say, when and in what order
Beginning with the art of being conscious, this kit guides you back to your intentions and builds the communication from there.
It guides you into a new mindset that is easy to grasp and apply in the moment and that authentically flows into action.
Once you have the mindset and intentions in place, we give you over 100 conscious communication strategies across the same 4 spheres of conscious communication that are within module 3 of this course. You’ll have the resources and awareness to create your own customised communication program and implement what you need when you need it most.
You WILL rewire the way you communicate, handle conflict in your family, and watch ALL the relationships in your family transform.
Get immediate, lifetime access for $279 USD,
or two monthly payments of $142 USD
The entire course is usually $389 USD
(or two monthly payments of $198 USD).
You are receiving this discount as a thank you for going through our conflict to connection kit :)
One payment of $279 USD
Two payments of $142 USD
I have gotten so much out of this course. I have come away from these women with the tools to navigate healthy communication and deep connection with myself, my beautiful son, my relationships... and anyone that comes my way really.
These beautiful women, Kaya and Lisa, gave themselves to us so wholeheartedly, with every ounce of their presence and availability, their support and nourishment. I really look forward to continuing being a part of this work.
Here’s what this work has given 100's of women around the world and what it will give you too
- Everything you need to show up as the conscious, connected mother that you truly can be if you weren’t so stretched, exhausted and overwhelmed
- Simple yet powerful (and mostly untapped) ways to feel way more energy & clarity that are inherently available to you as a woman and a mother
- The awareness and presence to choose conscious, connecting communication over reactive, disconnecting communication
- A deep sense of confidence and peace within yourself as a mother
- The exact roadmap to becoming the unique and best mother you know you need to be for your children
- The power to be a strong, effective and respected voice in your family without compromising your values or losing your connection with your children
- A mostly unknown communication tool that you can bring into every single situation to immediately put the fire out
- The tools and awareness to parent in alignment with your unique values and in ways that work for your unique children
- True, sustainable, mutually trusting connection with your children, and a healing of the bonds you share together
- A completely different approach to conflict. Being less reactive and more calm, aware and effective, no longer feeling overwhelmed by or scared of conflict and no longer feeling like you need to take sides or resort to ultimatums.
- More patience, presence and peace, making yelling and losing it a rare experience in your family life
- A completely different way to work with intense emotions (yours and your loved ones) that brings healing to everyone and makes sure emotions don’t control your behaviour
- The awareness to bring what you feel, want and need into the equation (and before that- actually know what you feel, want and need) in ways that don’t take away from your children (and instead gives them a way more present, loving, connected, whole mother)
- The tools to meet everyone’s needs (including your own) with far more ease than you could imagine
- The ability to mediate conflict resolutionbetween your children and between your partner and children- in effective ways that respect and empower everyone
- Tools and the inner resources to authentically play and have more fun with your children
Concrete communication strategies to really be listened to, respected and taken seriously in your family - Freedom from those deep seated, intergenerational, destructive family patterns you seem to repeat again and again
- Ways to help your child heal and release stuck patterns and emotions and come into their beautiful wholeness again
- Strategies to empower your children to handle their own big emotions and to constructively work through conflict together
- Liberation from isolating fears and low self worth that keeps you lonely on your journey through motherhood- making space for the safe, real and sacred community you need around youwhile you raise your children
- Tools to navigate conflict with your partner in the best ways possible, also when its in front of your children
- Ways to reconnect with your partner, re-establish intimacy and understand and appreciate each other all over again
- Powerful shifts within yourself that have you feel more spacious, relaxed, patient, grounded, at ease and abundant in time, no matter how full and intensive your life with your children is
Before coming to the course I was not enjoying my children and was struggling a lot with their fights and with my anger.
Now I feel way more connected. I am enjoying being with them more and I am not so reactive when they fight.
Some of my most memorable wins that came out of doing the course are connecting with my daughter after feeling very disconnected from her
and also how I am now changing conflict with humour that before seemed overwhelming.
It helped me to gently connect to what is moving deep inside, becoming aware of what I need and want, consciously moving forward from that place and authentically communicating.
Get immediate, lifetime access for $279 USD,
or two monthly payments of $142 USD
The entire course is usually $389 USD
(or two monthly payments of $198USD).
You are receiving this discount as a thank you for going through our conflict to connection kit :)
One payment of $279 USD
Two payments of $142 USD
We truly believe that, like the women who have gone before you in this course, you’ll get immense value from it.
At the same time, we want to make the choice easy and risk free for you. It’s important to us that we foster an energy of trust and safety and this starts right now in your decision to join us.
After you join us for the first 30 days, if you decide that it is not for you, we’ll refund your money (no questions asked) 🙂
Before beginning the course I was really struggling when my children were in conflict with each other and especially when my partner was in conflict with my children. I just didn’t know where to go with all that anymore. It kept feeling like I was taking sides, letting one person down in an effort to support another. I am now much more able to breathe and be aware of where I am at before responding to each of my family members. I don’t feel like I am taking sides anymore and we still have moments of conflict but my approach and response to it all has changed. Giving me more balance and less inner tension.
One thing that really stands out for me as a win has been the awareness of self. It’s really easy to read this sort of stuff and think “well, yes... that’s obvious” but when you actually put it into practice it really makes SUCH a difference. And it’s really not that difficult to look after myself AND my children at the same time. I don’t need to go to a day spa to feel looked after.
There is still SO much more for me to explore with all the content in the course. Luckily I have lots of handouts, meditations and beautiful posters to remind me of what I learned and experienced. There are so many aspects of the course and its philosophy that struck chords for me. Examining light and dark shadows was a very new concept for me and it was really enlightening to explore. I now find myself really thinking about my judgements of others, both positive and negative... when I make judgements of others I am wondering what is in that for me and reminding myself that what I can see in others is true for myself as well. After I have those thoughts it really helps me have empathy for others and wonder what their intentions are. This helps me maintain calm and approach situations without so much judgement.
Lisa and Kaya are transformational healers, coaches, and teachers with over a decade of experience (and numerous certifications) behind them in supporting women, and in particular mothers, to step into the highest light and parent from their own divine truth, in love and connection. Over the years they have coached hundreds of private clients, create countless group programs, and experiences and written 5 interactive books supporting mothers in the way they experience all the diversity of motherhood.
Most importantly alongside all our professional experiences we have been just like you - mothers! Mothers who have raised our children alongside running households, businesses, and life in general, 24/7. We get the joys and the frustrations, the love and the fears and everything in between. We are passionate about supporting mothers to create the experience of motherhood that in your heart you know it should be.